How To Instantly Tell If Your Spouse Has Been Snooping On Your iPhone

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You have suspicions that your spouse may be spying on you by snooping through your phone, but how can you know for sure? 

Take a minute to check your phone for these four telltale clues that someone else has been tapping and swiping where they shouldn’t be.  Read more

COVID-19 Update: How Do You File For A Domestic Violence Restraining Order?

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As the coronavirus (COVID-19) pandemic unfolds, many in New Jersey are working from home, facing quarantines and self-isolation, and encountering a high level of disruption to their daily activities; for individuals experiencing domestic violence, this public health situation can expose additional dangers and risks.

Are you experiencing domestic violence and concerned about how to go about getting help during this difficult time? Here is what you need to know now about how to file for a temporary restraining order (TRO).

[Please be advised that due to the fluid nature of the COVID-19 situation in New Jersey, we will update this blog with any new procedures that can affect domestic violence procedures.] Read more

Is It Domestic Violence If No Punches Are Thrown?

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Lightweight boxing champion Gervonta Davis is facing domestic violence charges after a shocking video surfaced showing Davis forcefully grabbing his ex-girlfriend at a charity basketball game in Miami on February 1. Davis can be seen approaching the victim as she sits in the crowd, yanking her to her feet by her throat and forcibly leading her out of the arena. Charges were filed after investigators reviewed the 14-second video and met with both the victim and Davis.  Read more

4 New Ways Abusers Are Cyberstalking In 2020 — And What You Can Do To Protect Yourself 


As smartphone and computer technologies continue to evolve, unfortunately, so too do the techniques abusive spouses use to twist these advances into manipulative tools of surveillance and cyberstalking. 

Are you concerned for your safety or the safety of a friend or loved one? In 2020, you need to learn four new ways abusers are cyberstalking — and the steps you can to protect yourself. Read more

#DVCounts: Child Support & Alimony For Domestic Violence Survivors Make Key Difference

September 13 is #DVCounts day, an important annual Census Day organized by the National Network to End Domestic Violence (NNEDV). All day long, organizations and survivors are sharing stories and data about the need for critical domestic violence resources.

According to the NNEDV’s DVCounts Annual Census Report (using statistics gathered on September 13, 2018), in New Jersey, over the course of a single day, survivors made 67 requests for services — including emergency shelter, housing, transportation, childcare, legal representation, and more — that could not be provided because programs did not have the resources to provide these services. The most frequently requested non-residential services that could not be provided were housing advocacy, legal representation, and financial assistance.  Read more

5 Immediate Safety Steps for Survivors of Domestic Violence


Abuse is not your fault, and you cannot make an abuser change. What you can do, however, is take back control of your own life, and take action to leave an abusive situation. 

You can be the change you need.

It’s #NOMOREWeek, and the theme for this annual domestic violence prevention and survivor advocacy week is something we believe strongly in: #ChangeHappensHere.

Many people feel paralyzed when they begin to think about leaving, but we want you to know that real steps are available to you right now to protect yourself and end violence and abuse in your life. 

Here are 5 powerful changes that can make all the difference for bringing safety to survivors of domestic violence.   Read more

3 Proofs for Obtaining a Final Restraining Order

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Have you taken out a Temporary Restraining Order (TRO) against your abuser? This is a big step towards safety, and now it’s time to plan your next step: turning your TRO into a Final Restraining Order (FRO). Read more

Divorcing An Abuser: 5 Steps to Getting Out Safely

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If you’re married to an abusive spouse, you’ve probably been conditioned to feel trapped and helpless. You may be financially dependent and wonder how you’ll support yourself and your children. No one should tolerate abuse, especially when children are involved. When divorcing an abuser, it’s critical that you plan your exit wisely — especially if your spouse has threatened you with physical harm to manipulate you into staying.

As scared and overwhelmed as you may feel right now, you and your children are likely to face greater harm if you stay. Here are 5 steps to help you get out of your abusive marriage safely: Read more

Control and Manipulation: The Insidious Roots Of Domestic Abuse

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You don’t have to be physically battered to be a victim of domestic violence. No matter the type of abuse — physical, verbal, emotional, sexual, or financial – control and manipulation are at the core. Are you being controlled by an abusive spouse or partner? It’s time to learn the warning signs.  Read more

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