How To Tell Your Adult Children About Your Divorce

Telling your kids you’re getting divorced is never easy — even when they’re adults.

Adult children, including those who are married themselves, can experience every bit the same emotional reaction to news of their parents’ divorce as a much younger child might. Parental divorce

can produce feelings of abandonment, sadness, anger, and be a trigger for adult children to question what was real in their childhood, even if your marital problems didn’t exist at the time.

Parents of younger children are advised to spend time planning the ideal way to talk about divorce with their children — but this same advice goes for divorcing parents of adult children. Preparing to break the news about your divorce? Here are some tips for how to discuss divorce with your adult children in a way that can help you all make a more positive adjustment. Read more

5 Ways To Ask For A Prenuptial Agreement

Asking for a prenuptial agreement

Sitting down with the person you love and asking him or her to sign a prenuptial agreement isn’t a conversation anyone wants to have. But it’s a critical one. What you say, and the manner in which you say it, can increase or destroy the trust between you.

Here are five ways to ask for a prenup that can actually make your relationship stronger. Read more

How New Jersey’s New Gestational Carrier Law Works: 4 Case Studies


Are you considering surrogacy as a way to start or expand your family?

In New Jersey, a recently passed law reverses the state’s decades-old ban on gestational carrier agreements, put in place in the aftermath of the infamous Baby M case. The new law outlines rules both intended parents and surrogates must follow for the contract to be considered valid.

Provisions of the new law includes: Read more

What New Jersey’s New Surrogacy Law Means For Your Plans to Have a Baby Via Gestational Carrier

lgbt surrogacy

Same-sex couples who wish to become parents and couples struggling with infertility may have just had their dreams of having a baby move a bit closer to reality, thanks to the passage of New Jersey’s new gestational surrogacy law. 
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FREE Webinar: 5 Key Strategies for Divorcing a Narcissist

If you are divorcing someone with Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD), you need to understand the sort of behaviors to expect, and how to cope. 

Divorcing a narcissist can be difficult — both emotionally and legally — and that’s why we put together a special free webinar on key strategies that can get you through your divorce with confidence and peace of mind. Register now and watch if for free!  Read more

Want to Beat the New Alimony Tax Law? Finalize Your Divorce By Year’s End

If you and your spouse have made the decision to divorce, but haven’t yet taken any legal steps yet to end your union, there’s one big reason why getting your divorce wrapped up this year is crucial.

Why the divorce rush is on in 2018

Beginning January 1, 2019, a new tax laws goes into effect that will change how alimony is treated on tax returns.

Under the current system, spouses required to make alimony payments (aka payor spouses) are able to deduct alimony payment amounts from their income come tax time. Once the new rule takes effect, however, this tax break is no more. For any new divorce or separation agreements executed after December 31, 2018, the payor spouse must include alimony as part of their taxable income. As a result, the payor spouse may also see an increase in the amount they owe Uncle Sam.

And here is why the clock is ticking: these new rules do NOT apply anyone with an existing alimony order.Divorce and separation agreements outlining alimony that are put in place before the deadline of December 31, 2018, the date upon which the old rules expire, will be considered “grandfathered” in under the old rules. If you divorced in 1998 or 2008…or you will finalize your divorce in 2018…the old tax deduction rules for alimony will still apply.

How the new alimony tax law works

Tax laws are never the easiest rules to understand, so let’s a closer look at how this one will work.

Let’s say your income is $200,000, and you pay roughly $50,000 per year in alimony. Under the current tax rules, you can deduct the $50K right off the top, giving you a taxable income to start of $150,000, an amount that could land you in a lower tax bracket, thus lowering your overall tax burden.

Starting in 2019, however, this $50,000 will be considered part of the payor’s taxable income with no break. Bottom line: If you pay alimony, you will be taxed for this money.

Are you the spouse who receives alimony? For you, the tax laws work in reverse. Under the old rules, spousal support payments counted as taxable income. (So that $50,000 would have been your taxable burden under the old rules.) Under the new rules, alimony will become essentially tax-free for recipient spouses.

The divorce clock is ticking

If you and your spouse are locked in a contested divorce that is beginning to feel like it could go on for years — or if you and your spouse have separated, but just have not gotten around to filing for divorce, it’s time to take stock:

• Will you need to pay alimony as part of your divorce settlement, or as part of a separation agreement (temporary alimony)?
• Do you have an idea of how much you will need to pay? What is the annual total? How long does your order require you to pay spousal support? (What is the duration of the alimony?)
• What is your tax situation? Do you have other deductions or would alimony be a key break on how much you own Uncle Sam?
• What is your overall income? You earn money and now you will need to pay alimony…can you really afford to pay more in taxes on top of that?

The next six months have become crucial time for you to move forward purposefully to ensure that your settlement is finalized by year’s end to take advantage of the old tax rules.

As a reality check, this blog is being posted on July 11 with 173 days to go until the December 31st deadline. There is still time to get your divorce decree (and alimony agreement) in place, but it’s in your best interests to start the ball rolling NOW!

If you are embroiled in a highly disputed divorce — or know that you want to divorce, but don’t know how to get started — we encourage you to come in for a free consultation with one of our highly skilled family law attorneys to understand your options for resolving your divorce in 2018.

Don’t delay in creating a clear strategy for a fair settlement. Safeguard your future. Call us today at 888-888-0919 or click the button below to get help.

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