Here’s What Happened To NJ’s Domestic Violence Cases During Covid-19 — And What You Can Do To Get Help 

nj domestic violence covid-19A NY Times article from the height of the Covid-19 pandemic found that domestic violence rates around the globe were rising, spurred by Covid-19 lockdowns, economic distress, and victims driven even further into isolation.

Concerned about similar spikes in domestic abuse that may be happening here in New Jersey, family law expert Bari Weinberger, our firm’s founder, set out to uncover how factors such as home confinement and court closures have impacted statewide domestic violence rates.  Read more

6 Ways Victims Of Domestic Violence Can Access Financial Support

financial support for domestic violence victimsAre you or a loved one trapped in an abusive relationship because you don’t see a way to financially support yourself should you leave? Are you asking yourself questions like…

How can I afford to rent an apartment? How can I afford to feed my kids? How can I create a new life if I can’t pay for it?

Abusers often use tactics of manipulative control over their victim’s finances (aka financial abuse) as a way to keep their victim isolated and fearful of leaving. Abusers may cut off access to joint bank accounts, ruin the victim’s credit, and terrify their victim into giving up their job. 

However, here’s what your abuser doesn’t want you to know: you can get out, you can get to safety, and you can get money to live. 

As you go about putting together your safety plan for leaving and creating a safe new existence for you and your children, please know that key financial support is available to you right now. See which of the following resources could be a good match for your needs.  Read more

Parenting Strategies When Divorcing A Narcissist

parenting strategies when divorcing a narcissist Are you divorcing a narcissist co-parent and wondering how you’ll survive till the kids leave home? Dealing with a high-conflict ex when it comes to the kids is difficult. But don’t despair! Here are some parenting strategies to help you navigate the challenges ahead, and regain your peace of mind. Read more

Court Highlights: In Winning Appeal, Attorney Richard Outhwaite Safeguards His Client’s Final Restraining Order

Congratulations to family law attorney Richard Outhwaite for protecting his client’s right to a final restraining order in her successful domestic violence appeals matter. The outcome of the Appellate Division case was highlighted in this week’s Court Digest (I.U. v. M.U., Appellate Division, Per Curiam).

Mr. Outhwaite skillfully secured his client’s safety and future by proving to the courts the continued need for the final restraining order over the objections and calls to dismiss by the defendant (the client’s former spouse). In its ruling, the Appellate Court agreed with Mr. Outhwaite and affirmed a lower court’s decision in favor of plaintiff pursuant to the Prevention of Domestic Violence Act, N.J.S.A. 2C:25-17-35. Mr. Outhwaite’s client was found to be credible and the FRO necessary for future safety. The defendant’s demand to dismiss the FRO was denied. 

We commend Mr. Outhwaite for his superb job in fulfilling our firm’s mission of safeguarding our clients and their rights and futures. As we observe October’s Domestic Violence Awareness Month, it’s all the more meaningful to have Mr. Outhwaite’s shining example of what we mean when we say that we are committed to our clients’ continued safety. 

Do you or a loved one need help with a domestic violence matter, including filing for a restraining order? Please see our free legal helping resources. Have questions and need to speak with an attorney? Contact us to schedule your free confidential attorney consultation. Call us at 888-888-0919, or click the button below.

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You Both Want To Call Off The Divorce — What Happens Next?

On Instagram Live last week, singer Cardi B revealed that she and her husband Offset are back together. The marital reconciliation comes just weeks after Cardi filed for divorce from Offset on the grounds their marriage was irretrievably broken. The two share a young child. 

So, what happens now? Their divorce was heating up and looked like it was headed for a public courtroom showdown. It’s great news that the couple wants to give marriage a second try, but what about the legal side of things? What happens to the divorce court legal process when a divorce is called off?  Read more

20 Signs You’re Married To A Narcissist


Is your spouse simply charming and confident? Or are these personality traits signs of something darker? Read on to find out if you might be married to a narcissist. Read more

How Does A Narcissist React To Divorce?

Narcissists are notorious for having extreme reactions, and the way they respond to divorce can be apocalyptic. Even if the narcissist wanted the divorce, the fact that the marriage ended tarnishes their image and makes them feel shame. And because narcissists can’t see their part in problems, they project that shame outward. Are you preparing to divorce a narcissist? Make sure you educate yourself about the ways your spouse will likely behave during divorce. Read more

Cyberbullying: Protect Your From The Narcissist’s Favorite Tool For Divorce Revenge

In divorce, a narcissist ex can be like a moth to the flame when it comes to negative social media posting. 

The reason why? Efficiency: In one fell swoop, a manipulative Facebook rant or Tweet can reach your friends and family, your kids’ teachers, your boss, and people you’ve never even met. The goal? Getting others to see and hopefully chime in about what an awful person your poor ex has had to deal with all these years. These likes and sympathetic comments provide the “narcissistic supply” this personality type needs to soothe their fragile egos. 

It’s destructive and dysfunctional behavior, and there is also a name for it: 

Cyberbullying.  Read more

Domestic Violence Awareness Month 2020 — How To Get Help During Covid-19

This October’s Domestic Violence Awareness month is one like no other. Typically, the awareness month is an important opportunity to share resources and engage in discussion about how to further aid survivors and end domestic abuse. 

In 2020, however, there is an urgent need to get information directly to victims who may be uncertain of how to get help and get to safety in the time of Covid-19. With closures and changed access the norm until further notice, usual avenues of help and support may feel difficult to access. 

Do you or a loved one need to get to safety as a result of a violent or abusive partner? Here is a breakdown of needed help and how to still get it during the pandemic.  Read more

How To Identify If Your Spouse Is A Narcissist

narcissist spouse

Is your spouse often self-centered, unsympathetic, and critical? Do you wonder if these qualities make them a narcissist? Don’t be too quick to diagnose. Narcissistic traits – and most of us have some — exist on a continuum. It’s possible to have “slivers” of narcissism without having full-blown Narcissistic Personality Disorder. First, let’s take a look at what “personality disorder” actually means. Read more