What’s the key to thriving after you split with your spouse? Having a low conflict divorce. You may feel angry and betrayed now — and legitimately so — but acting on those feelings by forcing a high conflict court battle won’t change the past, and certainly won’t help you move on with your life.
Need motivation to try a lower conflict approach to divorce? Here are six reasons why you should make your divorce as peaceful as possible.
Good for your children. Studies show that children are hurt less by divorce itself, than they are by the level of conflict. Warring with your ex makes having an effective co-parenting relationship virtually impossible. One of the key benefits of low conflict divorce is that you have more emotional reserves for your children, patience for the child custody determination process, and you’ll be better able to model conflict resolution and resiliency.
Good for your bank account. High-conflict divorce takes longer to resolve. It’s financially and psychologically draining, especially if you end up litigating. Being able to resolve your differences via lower conflict mechanisms such as mediation and collaborative divorce saves you dollars that you can invest in your future and your children.
Good for your social life. High-conflict divorce splits your social circle. Friends who feel compelled to take sides, or are overwhelmed by the drama in your life, may fade away. Among the many benefits of low conflict divorce, having an amicable relationship with your ex puts others at ease and makes it more likely that you keep your friends.
Good for your career. The stress of high-conflict divorce can make it hard to eat, sleep, and concentrate, which in turn makes it difficult to focus at work and navigate office politics. Moving on from divorce drama and developing an effective co-parenting relationship will free up mental reserves so you can excel at your job.
Good for your mental health. Some level of depression and anxiety are normal experiences in the divorce grief process. Reducing conflict in your divorce enables you to move through this process faster, because you’re not constantly re-injuring yourself with legal and emotional warfare.
Good for your life narrative. Divorce changes the trajectory of your life — and it can change for the better. What’s the story you want to tell about yourself, decades from now? Having a high-conflict divorce is likely to make you look back at your life with regret over the time, cost and stress involved in the process. A lower conflict divorce, on the other hand, creates a narrative of redemption and resiliency.
Don’t miss these benefits of low conflict divorce! For more help creating turning down conflict in your divorce, read this quick how-to guide: 7 Steps for Creating a Positive Divorce.
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