How To Have A Child-Centred Divorce: Acknowledge, Balance, and Communicate

TL;DR: Child-Centered Divorce


A “child-centred divorce” means more than just avoiding conflict — it’s about intentionally structuring every decision around your child’s emotional and developmental needs. By following the ABCs — Acknowledge, Balance, and Communicate — parents can protect their child’s security, maintain healthy bonds, and model cooperation during the transition of divorce. Putting your child first doesn’t weaken your legal position; it strengthens your family’s long-term well-being.

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“Child-centred divorce” is a phrase you may hear often, but what does it really mean? Beyond being a catchy concept, it reflects a powerful mindset — one that places your child’s health, happiness, and stability at the heart of every choice you make during divorce.

In New Jersey, judges, mediators, and family law attorneys all emphasize the best interests of the child when determining custody, support, and parenting time. But being “child-centred” goes beyond this legal requirement; it’s a conscious parenting approach that helps children feel secure even when the family dynamic changes.

Here’s how to put that philosophy into practice, step by step, using the ABCs. Read more

Nicole Kidman-Keith Urban Divorce: Are “Sobriety Clause” Prenups Enforceable in New Jersey?

TLDR: Prenup Sobriety Clauses


Nicole Kidman’s divorce from Keith Urban has renewed interest in their prenuptial agreement and its rumored “sobriety clause,” which allegedly ties Urban’s financial settlement to his sobriety from cocaine, alcohol and other drugs. Would such a clause stand in New Jersey? Likely not. New Jersey courts generally reject prenup terms that regulate personal behavior, morality, or custody, viewing them as unenforceable. To remain valid and enforceable under New Jersey law, a prenup should focus on financial issues only, including assets, debts, and alimony.

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Nicole Kidman filed for divorce from Keith Urban after nearly two decades of marriage, and now attention is once again turning to a “sobriety clause” in their long-rumored prenuptial agreement.

According to multiple reports, the couple’s prenup includes a clause that ties Keith Urban’s post-divorce financial support to his sobriety. Specifically, in the divorce settlement, Urban allegedly receives around $600,000 for each year of marriage in which he remained sober from cocaine and alcohol.

While neither Kidman nor Urban has ever confirmed the existence of these terms, their prenup still raises an intriguing legal question: if their divorce were happening in New Jersey, would a “sobriety clause” in a couple’s prenup still hold up in court? Read more

2025 Government Shutdown: Will It Affect Your Divorce?

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As of October 1, 2025, the U.S. federal government officially shut down after Congress failed to pass a budget or continuing resolution to keep agencies funded. This marks the first major shutdown since 2018–2019, and it may have wide-ranging effects on families and individuals — including those in the middle of divorce.

So what could this mean for your divorce, child support, or alimony? Here are four key areas to be aware of: Read more

Digital Assets in Divorce: How to Divide Cryptocurrency, NFTs & Online Businesses

How to divide digital assets and cryptocurrency in divorceIn today’s digital economy, accumulated marital wealth doesn’t just sit in real estate or retirement funds. Many couples now hold assets in cryptocurrency, NFTs (non-fungible tokens), and online business stakes. When divorce happens, these “digital assets” become part of the property division process. But because they’re newer and often complex, dividing digital assets can be more challenging than dividing tangible assets like a house or savings account.

Who gets the eBay storefront, crypto wallet, or digital artwork? Here’s what you need to know if dividing online or digital assets are required in your divorce. Read more

Rehabilitative Alimony: What Happens When a Stay-at-Home Parent Needs To Re-Enters the Workforce After Divorce?

In many marriages, one spouse reduces their hours or leaves the workforce altogether to raise children and manage the household. While this choice often benefits the family, it can leave the stay-at-home parent financially vulnerable if the marriage ends. Questions quickly arise: Will my spouse be required to provide alimony? Will the court expect me to support myself right away? How can I find work when my skills feel outdated?

In New Jersey, the answers depend on several factors, including the length of the marriage, each spouse’s financial circumstances, and the dependent spouse’s ability to return to work. One option that often comes into play for stay-at-home parents is rehabilitative alimony. Read more

No Tricks, Just Treats: 5 Halloween Co-Parenting Tips

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Halloween should be about candy, costumes, and fun — not conflict. But for divorced or separated co-parents, this festive night can bring up tricky questions. Who’s buying the costume? Who gets to take the kids trick-or-treating? And is it possible for both parents to be part of the celebration without things feeling awkward or tense?

The good news: it is possible. Whether you’re navigating your first Halloween as co-parents or you’ve been doing this for years and need a fresh approach, these simple co-parenting strategies can help keep the focus where it belongs — on making magical memories for your kids.

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Gray Divorce in New Jersey: How to Protect Your Retirement Savings

Over 50 and facing divorce? For many spouses in New Jersey, a “gray divorce” means untangling complex financial ties built up over decades – just as retirement is on the horizon. Unlike younger couples, there’s often little time to rebuild lost savings or restart careers, which makes retirement planning an essential part of divorce for silver splitters.

Understanding how divorce affects retirement security in New Jersey can help both spouses make informed decisions and safeguard their long-term future. Let’s take a look at some key issues you should know about. Read more

When a Child’s Behavior Raises Red Flags: Can It Affect Custody Decisions in New Jersey?

Can a child's bad behavior affect child custody decisions?

When deciding child custody, the New Jersey courts carefully assess each parent’s ability to provide a safe, stable, and supportive environment for the child. But what happens if a child repeatedly engages in reckless or even criminal behavior? Could the parent responsible for the child’s daily care risk losing custody because of it?
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Divorcing? Be Careful What You Tell ChatGPT — It Could End Up in Court

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Have you been using ChatGPT to search for divorce information or even talk through your feelings during this difficult time? Think twice about what you share. What most people don’t realize is that conversations with ChatGPT aren’t legally protected the way confidential conversations with a divorce lawyer or therapist are.

Here’s what you need to know.

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Blindsided by a Spouse’s Affair? What the Coldplay Kiss Cam Scandal Teaches About Protecting Your Next Steps

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At Coldplay’s recent concert in Boston, a now-viral kiss cam moment unexpectedly revealed marital infidelity unfolding in real time. We’ve all seen the clip: as the camera panned to a couple in the stands, the woman quickly covered her face while the man ducked out of frame. Chris Martin, the band’s lead singer, tried to lighten the mood with his quip, “Either they’re having an affair or they’re just very shy.”

When the footage hit newsfeeds the next day, the affair part of Martin’s prediction turned out to be true. The pair were quickly identified as married executives at the same company. 

Headlines have focused on the two caught on camera (one has since resigned; the other’s job is in limbo). But what about the people left reeling behind the scenes: the unsuspecting spouses who discovered — alongside the rest of the world — that their partner was unfaithful?

If you’ve been recently blindsided by your spouse’s affair, you’re likely still caught in that crushing wave of grief, numbness, and emotional paralysis. You may feel frozen in place as you wonder what to do next: Should you confront your spouse? File for divorce? Is there a path to rebuilding trust?

In the shock-filled aftermath of betrayal, it’s essential to give yourself space to regain your mental calm and process what’s happened, and begin to take the first steps towards legally and emotionally protecting yourself. Here’s how to do just that. Read more