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Kids, Divorce, And Manipulation: Three Strategies To Overcome Parental Alienation

what is parental alienation?One of the most painful byproducts of a high conflict divorce is watching your ex manipulate your children into believing that you’re a bad parent. Parent-child relationships that were strong before the divorce can be damaged almost overnight when an alienating parent lures a child into the Cult of the Bad Mom/Dad. Brainwashing tactics include bad-mouthing, lies, manipulation of events, and a constant barrage of negatives about the other parent…similar to a political smear campaign.

Treating parental alienation in a family or joint parent therapy setting is challenging because it is unlikely that the alienator will agree to go to therapy or that you will be able to agree on a therapist. Judges can mandate family therapy or parenting classes, but unfortunately, they can’t make an alienator listen to what the therapist has to say.

Some good news? You don’t necessarily need a judge or mental health professional in order to take action and give your child a more balanced picture of you and your relationship. Here are three strategies you can put into action right now to help stop parental alienation and protect your relationship with your kids. Read more

Child Custody: Don’t Take My Kids

iStock_000016682576XSmallWe recently blogged about the case of Paul Eksteen, a New Jersey father fighting for the return of his 11-year-old son from Paraguay. Eksteen’s son left the U.S. with his mother in late 2013, despite a court order demanding the mother relinquish the son’s passport. Eksteen recently filed international kidnapping charges against his ex-wife and is attempting to have his son returned to New Jersey to settle the child custody dispute.

Cases such as Paul Eksteen’s highlight the dire consequences and legal charges that can result when serious child custody disputes go unresolved. If you believe your former spouse has plans to flee the state or country with your child, or if other problems have cropped up with your parenting arrangement, including tense relations, failure to comply with the existing order, or even parental alienation, you may be wondering how you can safeguard yourself and your children from possible worst case scenarios, including parental abduction.

What can you do to keep your kids safe? Here are five actions to consider: Read more

Child Custody Battles: When to Fight & When to Forgive?

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When child custody needs to be settled in a couple’s divorce, it’s all too easy for the issue of how much time a child spends with each parent to turn into a battleground. Are tensions running high in your child custody matter? Not sure whether you should keep fighting or be willing to negotiate? Here are some tips for how to step back, reassess, and move forward on the path to resolution that’s best for you and your family. Read more

Understanding the Signs of Parental Alienation

Your child’s other parent won’t let you talk on the phone to your son or daughter. Your child acts shy or resentful around you until it finally comes out that your ex has been saying some pretty awful things about you behind your back. And then one day, you go to your designated location to pick up your child for the weekend only to find no one there. When you text your former spouse to ask what’s going on, you receive a reply telling you that your child doesn’t want to see you. Is this the truth — or is it parental alienation? Read more