Domestic Violence: Help for Victims of Spousal Drugging and Chemical Control

The tragic death of Long Island mother of three, Aleena Asif, has drawn national attention to a deeply troubling and often unacknowledged form of domestic abuse: chemical control.

According to Nassau County Police, Asif was found deceased in her Herricks, Long Island home. Her estranged husband was arrested and charged with her murder. Investigators allege he used a cyanide-based chemical substance in the attack, which occurred just days after being served with divorce papers.

Asif’s domestic violence murder serves as a painful reminder that abuse in relationships can take many insidious and dangerous forms. Increasingly, experts and advocates are drawing attention to a coercive form of abuse known as chemical control, in which a partner uses drugs or other substances to manipulate, incapacitate, or harm.

How can you recognize the signs of chemical control — and how can victims get help? Let’s take a closer look.

What Is “Chemical Control” in a Relationship?

Chemical control is a form of domestic abuse in which one partner uses substances — such as prescription medication, over-the-counter drugs, alcohol, or toxic chemicals — to manipulate, incapacitate, or harm the other.

It’s a pattern of dominance and psychological entrapment designed to strip victims of autonomy and clarity. In some cases, the abuse is subtle: a partner may secretly alter doses of prescribed medication, withhold needed treatments like insulin, or spike food or drinks. In others, it can escalate into extreme acts of violence, as law enforcement alleges occurred in the Asif case.

Signs of Chemical Control & Spousal Drugging

While every situation is unique, these warning signs may indicate that a partner is using substances to exert power or control:

• Unexplained physical symptoms: Sudden dizziness, drowsiness, nausea, or confusion after eating, drinking, or taking medication provided by your partner.
• Memory gaps or disorientation: Difficulty recalling conversations or events, especially following meals or medications.
• Changes in medication or dosage: Your partner insists on managing your prescriptions, alters dosages, or withholds necessary medications.
• Feeling “foggy” or unlike yourself: Persistent mental cloudiness or loss of focus that seems to occur only at home or around your partner.
• Unusual taste or smell in food or drink: Noticing differences in taste, color, or consistency that raise suspicion.

  Excessive control over your health: Your partner discourages you from seeing doctors or insists on being present during all medical appointments.

• Gaslighting about symptoms: Your partner dismisses your physical complaints as stress, paranoia, or exaggeration.

• Isolation from support: They discourage or prevent you from confiding in friends, family, or professionals about your health concerns.

Recognizing Chemical Control Under New Jersey Law

Acts such as drugging, withholding medication, or using substances to create confusion or dependency can qualify as domestic violence under New Jersey’s Prevention of Domestic Violence Act as a form of coercive control, which refers to any sustained pattern of behavior that restricts a person’s freedom.

You have the right to pursue a restraining order to secure your safety. Depending on the facts, victims may also have grounds to file a marital tort claim, which allows them to seek compensation for physical harm, emotional trauma, or other damages suffered during the marriage (as part of their divorce).

What To Do If You Suspect You’re Being Drugged or Chemically Controlled

If you believe your partner may be manipulating your medication, food, or drink, trust your instincts. The signs may be subtle, but there are steps you can take to protect yourself and begin documenting what’s happening:

1. Seek medical attention immediately. Tell your doctor or an emergency provider about your symptoms and your suspicions. Medical professionals can perform toxicology screenings and create an official record of your condition.
2. Preserve evidence safely. Keep any suspicious substances, containers, or altered medications in a sealed bag and store them where your partner cannot access them.
3. Document your experiences. Write down dates, symptoms, and any unusual behavior by your partner. Save texts, emails, or other communications that might suggest manipulation.
4. Reach out for help. Contact a trusted friend, a domestic violence hotline, or an attorney who can help you make a safety plan and pursue legal protection.

Remember: You are not overreacting. Chemical control is a form of abuse — and your safety and clarity matter. If you are in immediate danger, call 911. You can also reach the New Jersey Domestic Violence Hotline 24 hours a day at 1-800-572-SAFE (7233).

How Weinberger Divorce & Family Law Group Can Help

At Weinberger Divorce & Family Law Group, we understand that not all abuse leaves visible marks. Our experienced attorneys help clients:

• Document evidence of chemical control or coercive behavior
• Explain your rights under New Jersey’s domestic violence laws
• Secure emergency protection and restraining orders
• Navigate divorce, custody, and financial safety planning

Our attorneys offer confidential, compassionate guidance to help you understand your options and take the next step toward safety and peace of mind. Request your confidential consultation today.

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