How do I find the best mediator for my divorce?
How do you find the best mediator for your specific situation? What should you consider when choosing a mediator in New Jersey?
When you’re looking for a mediator, please understand that there are mediators who don’t have to have any specialized training. This is really important to appreciate the distinction between someone who understands the divorce and family laws as a family lawyer, and somebody who really just became a divorce mediator because they thought it was interesting. So, my suggestion to you is to go and ask those tough questions. Schedule an initial consultation, bring a list of questions having to do with your very specific divorce and family-law issues: Child custody, alimony, distribution of assets, anything pertaining to your house, a business, any visitation issues that you might have, financial, other types of questions. And go in and be specific.
And my strong suggestion is to ask; what divorce laws pertain to this question? How would a judge handle this? What would happen if I didn’t mediate this case and I went to court? What is the likely outcome if I decided to litigate the case, versus, mediate the case? Because more likely than not, you’re going to find that a mediator who is equipped with divorce and family law, who appreciates the nuances of the divorce and family laws from a court’s perspective and who understands the divorce laws, will be able to ascertain what you’re asking and be able to effectively answer it, as opposed to somebody who really doesn’t understand. You’re going to be able to make the distinction, and you need to make that distinction because it can make a significant difference in the whole mediation process for you, if you choose unwisely.
Why not find out more about mediation and if it is right for you?
