Children and Divorce
NJ Divorce Attorneys | Family Law New Jersey
Effects of Divorce on Children
It is no secret that when parents go through a divorce, the children go through the process with them. Each child reacts differently to the anxiety and uncertainty of divorce—some are forthcoming with their feelings, while others may become unusually reserved. Either way, it can be productive and useful to meet with a child psychologist and/or a counselor to learn how to effectively help your children during and after the divorce process. A professional can help your children cope with new parenting arrangements and changes to their environment while keeping household stress levels at bay.
Experience Matters
The NJ divorce attorneys at Weinberger Law Group have seen firsthand the benefits that mental health professionals can provide. Whether you decide to involve a mental health professional or not, it is important not to discuss the darkest details of your divorce with the children or in the children’s presence. Disparaging the other parent to the children or in front of the children can be terribly destructive, both to the children, and to your own relationship with them. It is important to remember that your children are probably feeling conflicted during the divorce; negative comments will deepen their sense of conflict
Learn the Questions
Children respond to divorce in a number of different ways, but many of their questions tend to be similar from family to family. These can include:
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Will children have to choose sides, or tell a judge where they want to live?
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Will the children have to pretend they don't like one parent in order to make the other parent feel more loved?
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Where will the children live and go to school?
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Who will take the children to their activities?
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Will the fighting between the children’s parents ever stop?
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What if the children find out their parents have been lying to them?
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What if the children don't get to see both parents on their birthday?
Minimize the Effects of Divorce on Children
When it comes to children and divorce, it is important to recognize that the separation process is happening to the entire household, not just the parents. Acknowledging the issues your children are facing is a crucial step in helping them adjust while bringing couples together to effectively co-parent. An experienced New Jersey divorce attorney can help you through these difficult times and connect you with resources to help you and your children both during and at the conclusion of the divorce process.
Contact Weinberger Law Group today to schedule a FREE INITIAL CONSULTATION with one of our experienced New Jersey divorce and family law attorneys. Whether your matter involves mediation, divorce, child custody or child support, our knowledgeable staff will protect the best interests of both you and your family.
Our partner, Bari Zell Weinberger, is certified by the Supreme Court of NJ as a Matrimonial Law Attorney. This Certification is achieved by only 2% of the attorneys in New Jersey.
