2007 Newsletter Archives

December 2007

  1. The Forensic CPA – Your ally in divorce
  2. The Jewish Holidays – Whose time with the kids?
  3. Say Goodbye with Love – Our challenge in starting over is to release our pain with forgiveness, understanding, gratitude, and trust
  4. Are Your Kids at Risk? – If you believe your children will be unaffected by your divorce, you’ll be surprised to learn that all children of divorce suffer emotional injuries. Here’s how to minimize the damage.
  5. Creating a Satisfying Life – Contrary to what you might believe, personal happiness is not dependent on life dealing you a good hand. Here’s how to move from dissatisfaction to real satisfaction.
  6. Pathways Through Grief – Here are some answers to some of the most frequently asked questions about sudden loss. You’ll find some “pathways” more helpful than others depending on your particular situation.

November 2007

  1. You Need a Credible Valuation of a Closely Held Business – In the divorce process, often the largest asset of value is the closely owned business.
  2. Happier Holidays! – Being “home for the holidays” is going to be different this year, but with planning, creativity, and courage you can cope with and even enjoy the holiday season.
  3. Think Positive! – You can’t always choose what happens to you, but you can choose how to react to and how you’ll feel about your circumstances. Here’s how to the magic of optimism to create a positive future for yourself.
  4. The Co-Parenting Relationship – Your marriage may be over, but your relationship with the other parent will continue as long as both you and your children are alive. Healthy co-parenting is a way to carry your children through the crisis of divorce to a safe and happy future.
  5. Advice From a Judge – A family court judge talks about effective preparation for court and how to achieve results in court by utilizing all available resources.
  6. Making Your Marriage Work

October 2007

  1. Reassuring Your Child – One of the most frightening feelings children have during divorce is uncertainty. This article offers some strategies for alleviating a child’s feelings of fear and insecurity
  2. Getting Prepared for Temporary Orders
  3. Taming Divorce Related Anger – Anger not faced doesn’t go away; it is redirected. Here’s how to release your divorce related anger.
  4. How Will You Find Value? – Determining the price for a buy-sell agreement
  5. Helping Your Own Custody Case
  6. When Your Ex Won’t Pay – We’ve all read the dismal stories about non-custodial parents and ex-spouses who are defaulting on their child support payments.

September 2007

  1. Legal Ease – Chances are you’ve heard horror stories about the divorce process from well-meaning friends and relatives. But before you start to worry about being “taken to the cleaners” or “left without a dime,” it’s important that you understand a few basic principles of divorce law.
  2. Step-Family Roles – In every family, people adjust to each other, and each takes on a certain role. But in step families, people sometimes fall into a role without considering whether it suits their needs or those of the family system.
  3. After the Loving: Post Divorce Financial Planning
  4. Take Care – Nurturing your body through the stresses of separation and divorce is absolutely vital.
  5. Parents Who Successfully Fought Parent Alienation Syndrome

August 2007

  1. Tips For Settling Your Divorce Case Through Mediation
  2. Successful Step-Families – How to create a happy, functional step-family
  3. Are You Really Ready for Divorce? – The eight questions you need to ask
  4. What’s Your Money Personality? – This article will help you increase your self-awareness as you gain an overview of your present relationship to money (its strengths as well as its weaknesses) and of your money personality in general.
  5. Spiritual Divorce – The crisis of divorce is a spiritual wake-up call. You can choose to work hard and heal yourself on the deepest level, or you can be a victim of life and other people’s problems. To choose a Spiritual Divorce is to use your divorce to heal yourself; here’s how to use your divorce to nurture your spirit and create a life you’ll love.
  6. Discovering Authentic Love – There are seven predominant types of love masquerades that prevent men and women from giving and receiving the love they want and need. Here’s how to learn from the mistakes you’ve made and understand how to avoid repeating them.

July 2007

  1. The Perfect Divorce – Your family is going to look different after divorce, but that doesn’t have to be a bad thing. Here are ten steps to help you re-create your family as a happy, functional, two-home family post-divorce.
  2. The Money Trap – How can two nice people who used to be a nice couple suddenly turn into two gladiators trying to destroy each other?
  3. The Power of Listening – Of all the tools available to us in dealing with conflict, none is more important than attentive, intentional listening.
  4. Recovering Your Self-Esteem – Your breakup may have left you with negative feelings about your self-worth, but you have so much more value than your marriage and divorce may have led you to believe. It’s time to learn to appreciate your self again.
  5. Dating After Divorce – Since you’ve probably been out of circulation for a while, here are some of the rules of the new Dating Game from Rebound Relationships to the Ten Commandments of Dating.
  6. Cupid and Contracts – It may not be a romantic exercise, but creating a marriage of cohabitation agreement can help you identify potential bones of contention as well as protecting you financially if your love affair turns sour.

June 2007

  1. Step by Step – Parenting is a pretty tough job, but step-parenting can be even harder. Here are some tips.
  2. How Can I Protect My Credit and Finances Before, During and After Divorce?
  3. Mediation: Be Prepared
  4. Moving Beyond Grief – Failing to deal with your divorce-related grief may wreck your changes for a happy future.
  5. Parenting Plans in Mediation
  6. Divorce: What went wrong?
  7. Moving From Panic to Peace During Divorce – The 7 stages of divorce

May 2007

  1. Part-Time Parenting – If you’re now a part-time parent, you may be tempted to fill your kids’ visits with big-ticket entertainment to assuage feelings of guilt and insecurity. But what do they really want from you?
  2. A Matter of Faith – Working with both traditional psychotherapy as well as spiritual practices such as mediation, prayer, or yoga in parallel can aid in divorce recovery
  3. Is Mediation For You? – Mediation allows you to make your own decisions about the future, but it isn’t for everyone.
  4. In-Laws and Outlaws – When you get divorced, do you have to “divorce” your spouse’s friends and family and vice versa?

April 2007

  1. Mom’s House; Dad’s House – Here’s how to meet the challenges of setting up two happy homes for you children.
  2. Checks and Balances – How to reconcile your emotions with the financial side of your divorce.
  3. The Good Divorce – The “good divorce” is not an oxymoron. The simple truth is that while there are bad divorces, there are also good ones. And it’s never too late to have a good divorce.
  4. A Solid Relationship With Your Divorce Attorney – How to work with your divorce lawyer to achieve the best possible outcome.
  5. The Gifts of Your Marriage – Heal your heart by finding gratitude for the time you spent with your former spouse and extended family. Here’s how.
  6. Love and the Dotted Line – It may not be the most romantic part of your blooming relationship, but a pre-nuptial agreement can protect your financial future if that bloom fades. Whether you’re Donald and Ivana or John and Jane, here’s what you need to know before walking down the aisle.

March 2007

  1. Avoiding Common Pitfalls – Certified Divorce Financial Analysts offer their best tips to help you avoid some of the most common mistakes made by divorcing people.
  2. Getting a Parental Grip
  3. Managing the Anger of Divorce
  4. Cohabitation Issues
  5. Someone Right For You
  6. House Hunting

February 2007

  1. Divorce Prevention: Valentine’s Day Tips
  2. Here and Now – How to keep the noncustodial parent involved in your child’s life.
  3. The Money Trap – How can two nice people who used to be a nice couple suddenly turn into two gladiators trying to destroy each other?
  4. Unloading your Emotional Baggage
  5. Child Custody: Is a Custody Battle Best For Your Children? – Beware of letting your children get involved in the case through an extended custody tug-of-war it will backfire on you.

January 2007

  1. Can Kids Count On Us?
  2. Common Types of Retirement Benefits Divided in Divorce Cases.
  3. Divorce Recovery – Recovering from divorce is like climbing a mountain, one challenging step after another. For most of us it’s a difficult journey but the rewards at the end of the climb are worth it.
  4. Options – Valuation, Taxation & Alimony
  5. Transitional Marriage Stages From Divorce to Remarriage
  6. Learning to Live Apart