There are a number of grounds for divorce in the State of New Jersey. You need to choose at least one of the grounds in order to file a complaint to be recognized and be eligible for an ultimate judgment of divorce. The most common ground utilized today is irreconcilable differences. That merely indicates that there's been some type of breakdown of the relationship for a period of at least six months. You don't have to identify what constitutes the breakdown of the relationship, just merely that there has been one. It's one of the most respectful grounds that you can use. Even though it's difficult to receive a complaint for divorce in many cases, receiving one with irreconcilable differences as the ground for divorce is oftentimes the least offensive one that you can possibly receive.
Other grounds for divorce are adultery, extreme cruelty, separation. Separation is a bit of a misnomer, separation doesn't really mean exactly what you think it does, it is, in fact, that you have to be in a physical separate residence for a period of at least 18 months. There's also the ground of desertion, which many people are confused by. It's natural to be confused because the term of art sort of gives you the impression that your spouse would have abandoned you in some form or another physically by absconding to another state of leaving the home in some form or another. But the act of desertion actually means that there's been a lack of physical intimacy for a period of at least 12 months. There's also the ground of incarceration or habitual drunkenness. There are a number of grounds for divorce that you can utilize. Talk to a divorce and family attorney and find out which ground or grounds best meet your needs.