2009 DIVORCE NEWSLETTERS

As a service to our clients, we are pleased to provide you with this monthly e-newsletter.  We hope that the information and articles are helpful and supportive.

December 2009

1. In debt getting your Finances Back on Track Get control of your finances and debts, its up to you to manage.
2. Life after Divorce: The power of acceptance Acceptance is the most important and most difficult step we must take toward releasing the past and beginning a new chapter of life.
3. Is It Wise to Save Money and Vacation Together? How two parents can vacation together with the children after a separation.
4. Who Decides: You or the Judge? Be aware that when you take child issues to court, you are turning over control to a judge who doesn't know you or your children.
5. Holiday Tips for Divorced Parents An interview with Dan Couvrette, Publisher of Divorce Magazine.

November 2009

1. Divorce Ceremony: A Healing Way to Begin Life Anew

2. Two Homes for the Holidays: How to deal with your children's anxieties over celebrating holidays with separated parents.

3. How to Evaluate an Attorney

4. The Good Divorce: The simple truth is that there are bad dicorces, there are also good ones. And it's never too late to have a good divorce.

October 2009

1. Observe courtroom etiquette - This judge wants you to know a bit of etiquette in advance to help you ease your worries about making a gaffe.

2. Love, money, and the blended family - How to manage a relationship that comes with financial liabilities from a previous divorce.

3. Seeking marriage counseling - Here are some of the reasons why couples seek marriage counseling.

4. When did childhood get to be so stressful? - Appreciate your child's situation and be the adults.

September 2009

1. Divorce versus Annulment - Learn the differences between divorce and annulment.

2. Divorce, Recession Sytle - The way that couples, and the professionals assisting them, are dealing with divorce has had to change dramatically to keep up with today's financial realities.

3. Contested or Uncontested - Here's an overview of the contested and uncontested divorce process.

4. Reconcilable Differences - Learn how to rebuild relationships after separation/divorce

5. Divorce Therapy for Parents: How to help your children - Divorce is hard for your children, here are some suggestions to help you help your children

August 2009

1. The Wisdom to Know the Difference - In order to navigate the legal system successfully, you have to understand (and come to terms with) what it can and cannot do.

2. Don't Get Hung up on Fairness - Learn why this judge says: In divorce court, arguing about whether something is fair is usually a waste of time.

3. Life After Divorce: The Power of Acceptance - The acceptance of your reality, with no illusions or personal interpretations or filters involves giving up blame, resentment, and regret.

4. Emotional Issues and Negotiation Skills - Questions and answers on how to overcome emotions that interfere with negotiations; how to make trade-offs so that you get what you really want etc.

5. The Key to Divorced Parents Helping Their Children Through Eeconomically Stressful Times: Work Together - Learn how to communicate your changing financial circumstances to your children by working together with your spouse.

 July 2009

1. The Transformative Power of Self-Care - Self-care is about nurturing yourself on all levels -- physically, mentally, emotionally, and spiritually -- so you can live, love and parent optimally.

2. Making Your Case For Spousal Support - Many states consider your marital standard of living and your pre-divorce lifestyle as major factors in awarding spousal support.

3. In the Best Interest of the Child - Divorce can be nasty business, but no matter how angry you are at your spouse, it's no excuse to involve your children in the nastiness.

4. A Solid Relationship With Your Divorce Attorney - What your lawyer needs and expects from you and what you should expect from your lawyer.

5. Parenting Pitfalls - Common warning signs that you need help before your children become casualties of your divorce.

June 2009

1. The Divorce Process – Part IV: Issues to deal with and the divorce judgment.

2. Pieces of You – Identifying and filing the “missing pieces” is the key to finding the life and love you want.

3. Suddenly Single: Insurance Factors for Single Parents – As a single head of household, it is critical to have periodic evaluations of your insurance coverage to ensure that your children are protected and financially secure at all times.

4. How to Earn Forgiveness and Rebuild Trust After Betrayal – Learn how the damage of infidelity can be undone.

5. Am I a Parent Alienator? – Take this test online and find out if you alienate your children against you

May 2009

1. Telling Your Kids: Preparing for Your Children's Responses - Prepare yourself for the different kinds of emotional reactions your children may have after you tell them about your divorce.

2. Anger Management - Now that it's over, it's okay to feel angry

3. Check, Please! Don't give up on your parenting responsibilities - It is best to exercise some logic and good judgment when it comes to your children and your household during your divorce.

4. Divorce Process - Part III: Litigation and negotiation - A basic guide to the legal process behind ending your marriage.

5. Bootcamp for the broken-hearted - Here's a look at the stages of a broken heart -- and some tips on mending your heart and moving on.

April 2009

1. Telling Your Kids: Helping Your Kids Cope Over Time - After you've told your children about your divorce plans, you must keep your promises to them about what life would be like in the future.

2. Divorce Process - Part II: Preparing Discovery - A basic guide to the legal process behind ending your marriage.

3. I Am Overwhelmed With Debt And Bills From My Divorce. What Can I Do? - Putting off handling your finance after the divorce can lead to sleepless nights and expesive mistakes.

4. Building A Wonderful You - Learn how to embrace and accept yourself.

5. Reconcilable Differences: No More Secrets - A story of how two committed parents can have a good relationship with each other and their extended families regardless of the reason for the divorce.

 March 2009

1. The Divorce Process: Part I - Temporary Order - Seek proper information and advice before you agree on the terms of your temporary order as they can impact the final outcome of your divorce.

2. Help your Child - A child's reactions to separation and divorce are greatly influenced by their parents' behavior. Help yourself so you can help your children.

3. Where Credit's Due - How to protect your all-important credit score during divorce

4. Frequently Asked Questions About Infidelity - These FAQs cover statistics on infidelity, signs of infidelity, and its impact on a relationship.

5. Adult Children of Parental Alienation Syndrome - Learn to identify the patterns of alienation and it is possible for alienation to be reversed.

February 2009

1. Dividing Marital Property - Here's how to deal with complex financial or property issues in a divorce.

2. Creating Clarity from Chaos - With its new rules and routines, divorce can bring disorder to any domicile. Here's how to bring structure back to your family life.

3. It's a Date - Getting ready to re-enter the dating scene? Here's a light-hearted look at the rules of engagement after divorce.

4. Working with Your Attorney to Get the Best Results Possible - A rundown of what to provide for your lawyer to help him create the best settlement for you.

5. Get Clear if You Should Stay or Go - Here's how to figure out if your relationship is workable and worth saving.

January 2009

1. Ten tips for divorcing parents - Divorce is never easy on kids, but there are many ways caring parents can help lessen the impact of their break-up on their children.

2. Atittude - your emotional divorce and recovery - Learn how your attitude affects your life.

3. The phases of a divorce trial - Prepare yourself for the 8 phases of a divorce trial.

4. The full-service lawyer - What you get in the gold-plated divorce

5. The benefits of divorce mediation - How the mediation process can diffuse the conflict and improve communication in your divorce.  

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